{"id":3513,"date":"2012-07-23T12:12:29","date_gmt":"2012-07-23T17:12:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.melanierobertson-king.com\/wp02\/?p=3513"},"modified":"2012-07-23T12:12:29","modified_gmt":"2012-07-23T17:12:29","slug":"bullying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/melanierobertson-king.com\/wp02\/?p=3513","title":{"rendered":"Bullying&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I was reading New Beginnings by Rebecca Emin when I was approached to read\/review another book that dealt with childhood bullying. I agreed and started reading it today. I&#8217;ll post my review here when I&#8217;m finished. Bullying is as old as man and will continue to plague our lives unless we collectively take a stand to stop it.<\/p>\n<p>So without any further preamble from me, I turn my blog over to Jackson Keene author of the debut\u00a0YA novel, NOLICHUCK.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\">GUEST POST by Jackson Keene, Author of Debut YA novel <strong>NOLICHUCK<\/strong><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\">(<em>NOTE:\u00a0 TJ, our young hero of <strong>NOLICHUCK<\/strong>, endures constant bullying at school.\u00a0 He even has problems with ruffians when he travels back in time to the wild frontier days.\u00a0 His story of ultimately overcoming and gaining real confidence is very relevant for youth today who suffer harassment from mean classmates.<\/em>)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline\">Are you faced with bullying at school or know students who are?\u00a0 Ways to deal with bullies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Bullying in schools has seemingly reached epidemic proportions today.\u00a0 This appears especially true in elementary school, middle school, junior high school levels, and even up through senior high.\u00a0 And it&#8217;s not just the boys who are tormenting their classmates.\u00a0 Girls often are crueler and much more devious than the boys.<\/p>\n<p>Bullying can take many forms.\u00a0 It can be verbal such as taunting, teasing that goes way beyond mere kidding around, false accusations, vicious rumors, ugly slurs, constant unkind statements, making fun of someone&#8217;s appearance or intelligence or lack of material things.\u00a0 It can be emotional such as constantly and publicly humiliating someone, continuously excluding someone from becoming part of an accepted group or popular crowd, derogating someone&#8217;s manhood or womanhood.\u00a0 And it can be physical, including hitting, punching, slapping, kneeing a boy in his private area, shoving, tripping, choking, in the case of girls, pulling hair, yanking on clothes, spitting, biting, kicking, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever form bullying takes and wherever it occurs, bullying kids at school is intolerable behavior.\u00a0 Unnecessary and unprovoked unkindness is always wrong, no matter what the excuse.<\/p>\n<p>But there are ways students can help protect themselves and deflect bullying actions.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Build a &#8220;defense team&#8221; around you.\u00a0 The old truism that all bullies are cowards unfortunately is not 100% true.\u00a0 Yes, many bullies are cowardly at heart, and they seek to lash out at weaker prey.\u00a0 But all bullies, whether they&#8217;re a coward or not, respect power.\u00a0 Two are better than one, three are better than two, four are better than three.\u00a0 Early on, connect with other students who may also be targets of bullying action, and form a protective group.\u00a0 In between classes, in the lunchroom, in the gym, on the playground, etc., keep together as much as possible.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Believe in yourself&#8221; and your good qualities.\u00a0 I&#8217;m not saying don&#8217;t be realistic about areas where you want to improve.\u00a0 We all have things that aren&#8217;t perfect in ourselves.\u00a0 But spend equal time encouraging yourself in the many areas where you KNOW you have good qualities.\u00a0 Think on all the good traits, skills, and abilities you have.\u00a0 Don&#8217;t let peer pressure or group mentality or bullying take away your core confidence.\u00a0 You have a lot of innate value.\u00a0 You have dreams and hopes.\u00a0 Don&#8217;t give those up.\u00a0 Who knows how productive and how fulfilling your life will be in 10, 20 years versus many of those people who are being mean to you right now.\u00a0 Look at the long-range picture and KNOW you&#8217;ll going to be someone and accomplish good things.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Stand up&#8221; for your innate worth.\u00a0 When confronted by untrue or mean statements, reply calmly, logically, and clearly.\u00a0 State what you know to be true about your self-worth.\u00a0 Don&#8217;t back down.\u00a0 And never give up on yourself.<\/li>\n<li>Think about taking some type of &#8220;martial arts or self-defense&#8221; class.\u00a0 I&#8217;m not necessarily talking about becoming the Karate Kid here.\u00a0 But learning some basic defense techniques and using them ONLY WHEN ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY will work wonders in scaring off would-be bullies.\u00a0 I had several fights growing up with bullies.\u00a0 I was always small, highly intelligent (not a good thing in my generation), but feisty, and I never lost a fight with a bully, and in fact had instances where the bully failed to show at the &#8220;appointed time&#8221; because my bluster apparently scared them off.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Make allies and be a friend&#8221; wherever you can.\u00a0 Even among the more popular kids, you&#8217;ll find of lot of them have good hearts and real character who&#8217;ll sympathize with your plight and take up for you.\u00a0 Be a true friend to everyone you can, knowing that real friendship pays dividends.\u00a0 And don&#8217;t just be a friend to those in power, so to speak.\u00a0 You should go out of your way to be friends with others less fortunate.\u00a0 Help those in need, and you&#8217;ll find help may be coming back to you!<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Never return evil for evil&#8221;.\u00a0 It never works out the way you&#8217;d hoped.\u00a0 Don&#8217;t say or do intentionally mean things to get back at bullies or others.\u00a0 Rise above the maddening crowd and be a better person than the bullies who persecute you.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Make it known&#8221;.\u00a0 In today&#8217;s &#8220;zero tolerance&#8221; environment, it&#8217;s not only okay but the correct thing to do to notify school administrators and teachers of bullying behavior.\u00a0 They&#8217;ll take steps to stop the aggression.\u00a0 In addition, you should confide in others who can give you comfort and guidance:\u00a0 Siblings, family members, friends, acquaintances you can trust, and people at church (if you go).\u00a0 Talking things out always helps, especially if the person has been through some of the same problems in their school days. \u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>\u00a0So if you know someone or someone&#8217;s child(ren)\u00a0who is being bullied, or suspect they are, please share this post with them. 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